- Trying to do everything? You have just said YES to the thought everything is more important than what I need to do.
- Answering all emails, calls and messages? Thinking that you have to do things immediately? You have just said YES to being available 24/7.
Allowing yourself to get distracted on things that aren’t important to you? Social media is huge in creating this black hole. How much time does Facebook really need? I have had to turn off all notifications when I am working. The constant interruption of pings for new email, text messages, Facebook postings were too distracting. Let your calls go to voice mail. Say NO to distractions.
- Do you procrastinate? Trying to get things perfect the first time? You have just said YES to fear and guilt.
It may seemed like a good idea at the time to put off that task, but now you are cursing yourself. How did this happen? Be aware when you start to drift, the excessive “preparation” and the time spent on other tasks that could have safely waited until next week.
This is a BIG one for me. I always have to be aware that I am easily drawn in to the “getting ready to get ready” vicious circle. Say NO to perfection and remember done is better than perfect.
- Do you put everyone and their dog before your own self-care? You have just said YES to a guilt trip.
You might think that you are being selfless but giving until there is nothing left doesn’t serve anyone. Take time to give yourself something that nourishes you…take a bath with essential oils, read a book and have a cup tea – uninterrupted, perhaps you need a nap. Say NO to the guilt trip. Say YES to making yourself a priority in your life.When writing your Stop Doing List first think about what is important that you have to do. What tasks are important but not urgent? These are tasks that you can plan for a later date. What is not important but urgent? Can you delegate this task to someone else? And lastly, what is not important and not urgent. Can you delete this task off your list altogether? The key to remember is, your Stop Doing List is to help you find the best use of your time. That might not always be the most fun or the most enjoyable but you need to find a strong drive and desire for something more in your life. Then start using the time you were previously wasting to work towards this dream. What will you put on your stop doing list to take the busyness out of your days and replace it with productivity instead? Don’t be busy, be productive. Planning out my day is part of my daily routine. I plan my start and stop working times, as well as breaks. Humans need to rest and recharge. By scheduling breaks you can take a breather. You will be more focused on your task when you return. After you’ve written your Stop Doing List, go back to your to-do list and add one more item: Do nothing. Plan to give yourself some complete down time. Give this as much time as you have for this, be it an hour or a day. When you stop moving, you’ll be able to reflect on your other activities. Are they them moving you closer to the right goal? You know what to do if they aren’t. Time is your most valuable resource – don’t waste it